11 Ways to Prevent Sabotage Your Success
Procrastination is hands down, our favorite form of self-sabotage-Alyce Cornyn-Selby
Do you ever feel like you’re your own worst enemy? You work hard to achieve success, but then something happens that causes you to sabotage your own efforts. Maybe you get too comfortable and let up on your routine, or maybe you start to doubt yourself and lose faith in your ability to succeed. Whatever the reason, sabotaging your success can be a huge waste of time and energy.
There are many reasons why people sabotage their own success. Sometimes it’s because of fear, sometimes it’s because you’re not enjoying the process. Maybe it’s an identity issue or maybe you think you don’t deserve your success. Whatever the case may be, here is what you must do in order to overcome this obstacle and not let some silly little thing like sabotaging yourself get in between your dreams coming true.
1) Realize that there is more than one kind of ambition
Too often, we define someone as being ambitious if they want to achieve something quickly and with a lot of drive behind them. But there is another form of ambition that can also be dangerous to ourselves, which comes from wanting to impress others by achieving something fast and going the extra mile to show our dedication.
People who do this often take on unnecessary stress and do things that will take a toll on their health. This is because they want to get a lot done in a short amount of time, not giving themselves enough room to breathe or relax when they need it most. It can also be harmful towards loved ones when we try so hard to please them when instead we should be focusing on how much we value what they bring into our lives and stop trying so hard to buy affection with material goods.
2) Only you know your limits
There’s no way you can push yourself if you don’t know where your limit is because then you won’t know how far to go before it becomes too much. It’s also hard to understand your limit if you haven’t tested it before.
Take the time to do something that brings up feelings of discomfort, and then instead of trying to escape them, listen closely to what they’re telling you about yourself. What makes you push away? What makes you cling closer? Only through making these connections will you understand how to relate to yourself better and thus learn where your limit is.
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3) The worst thing that can happen often isn’t all that bad.
We perceive certain things as unfavorable because we’ve built them up in our own minds as far worse than they are. If this were true for every single person on the planet, nobody would ever make the first move because we’d be letting our worst fears get in the way.
Don’t let your worst fears get the best of you because once you realize that what you’re afraid of won’t hurt as much as you thought it would, then not only will you find it easier to face them, but doing so will no longer hold that much power over your choices and decisions. You’ll also become more comfortable going after what you want without holding yourself back through fear.
4) Be honest with yourself about everything, even if it’s scary.
When we do something shameful or embarrassing—something that our loved ones might reject us for—then often, we try to hide these things from them under pretenses. Lies will only do you harm in the long run because they will always come back to the surface sooner or later, so unless you want your loved ones to find out what you’re hiding from them via other means, then be honest. The more open and trusting you are with those around you—assuming they deserve it, of course—the better off everyone will be.
This also applies to yourself, especially when it comes to your limits. If you aren’t being entirely truthful about who you are or your goals, how can anyone expect others to support them? You’ll find that people won’t fully accept the authentic version of yourself if they don’t know who that person is and, as such, not achieve as much as you might be able to if you were completely open and honest with those around you well as yourself.
5) You can’t permanently save people from themselves.
You don’t have the power to make everyone else’s choices for them because they may not be ready for what is useful or necessary, especially when learning lessons that they need to experience.
At the same time, though, there will be certain things—like someone putting their health and well-being in danger—that we won’t ever stand by and watch happen without at least trying to do something about it. It’s essential, however, that whatever actions we take are done with care because often, these kinds of struggles teach us most of what we need to learn on our own.
6) Find out what your needs are first.
It’s hard to tell what you need when you aren’t aware of what makes you truly happy because if you don’t know what brings meaning into your life, how can you possibly compare new experiences with old ones?
Take some time to think about the things that make you happy and spend more time doing them, even if they’re little things. If this seems too challenging to do all on your own, then take a weekend trip somewhere by yourself so that you have an excuse to explore past your routine. For instance, I would often go on adventures alone where I’d visit a place nearby that I hadn’t been to before—trying new restaurants, having picnics in parks, etc. I always had the best time whenever I was able to do things like this.
7) Don’t get too attached to things or people because everything changes.
You cannot force something to stay the same; sooner or later, it will always change—whether for better or worse doesn’t matter—just because that’s how reality works. Life is just one big game of musical chairs where you can never be sure when your next opportunity to sit down and relax will come around again, so it’s vital that instead of trying to hold on tighter, you learn how to let go at the correct times.
8) Sometimes, you need space from everyone else even if they don’t want you to leave.
Sometimes people will want you around, but other times they won’t. Sometimes it’s because they don’t want to see you suffer or sometimes just because they’re tired of dealing with your bullshit and need a break from you—it doesn’t matter which one it is as long as whatever their reason for not wanting you to stay is legitimate.
Even though this might be hard for some people who feel lonely by themselves, we must spend time alone to grow and become better people first and foremost before trying to help others. If we aren’t able to do this on our own—if we depend entirely upon the approval of those around us for the sake of our sense of self-worth instead of trusting ourselves, then someone else will always define our value no matter how good of a person that we might be.
9) You’ll never genuinely understand people until you walk in their shoes.
People are entirely different from one another for the simple reason that they’re not all raised alike. What makes some people think in specific ways is their experiences—positive or negative—which made them decide to do things differently than everyone else. Unless you can understand what it’s like to be them, then there will always be aspects of their lives that seem utterly meaningless and boring because you don’t know enough about them yet.
10) The best way to make new friends is by giving unconditionally without expecting anything in return.
Even though this seems complicated to accomplish at first, this is what all of the most famous people could do, so it’s possible for everyone else—it just takes hard work. When you meet new people, give them compliments, hold doors open for them if they’re behind you, offer to help if they look like they need assistance with something, etc. because doing things like this will make them want to become friends with you more than anyone else who might be trying to be nice but with ulterior motives.
11) Putting yourself first does not make you a wrong/selfish person.
Putting yourself first does not mean that you’re putting other people last or that you’re being selfish—you’re just doing what’s best for yourself because if nobody else is going to do it, then there won’t be anyone around to help others way that they need. By working to take care of yourself first, you might be able to start helping others more when your level of self-sufficiency is on point.
It can be so easy to get derailed on our own path to success. We hope that by providing you with these eleven ways to prevent sabotage, you will find it a bit easier stay on track and achieve your goals. What are some things you do to make sure you don’t self-sabotage?