If You Don't Want To Repeat Angry and Negative Patterns, Then Do This

When you are offended at any man’s fault, turn to yourself and study your own failings. Then you will forget your anger- Epictetus

I’m sure you’re familiar with the feeling. You do something that you know isn’t good for you- maybe it’s eating unhealthy, staying out late, or using drugs or getting angry- and then you feel guilty.  It feels like a never-ending cycle, but there is a way to break free. Read on to find out how.​

The phrases you habitually use, the attitudes and emotions you experience on a day-to get your point across. These are all part of what’s called “the pattern”. If we stay in this cycle too long it can be difficult to escape from them because they become addictive habits that affect not only ourselves but also those around us who live with or come into contact every day – often without even realizing how ours may have influenced their patterns!

Breaking out negative patterns in our lives can be challenging, especially when these patterns have been ingrained for years or even decades. At first glance, it may seem like there is no way to escape from this cycle of negativity. However, by taking small steps towards change, we can begin shifting our habits and behaviors in a more positive direction.

One important thing to remember is that breaking out of these cycles requires patience and commitment. We cannot simply make one big decision and expect our lives to transform overnight. Instead, we must take things slowly and deliberately, paying careful attention. This might mean keeping a journal to track our moods and behaviors, trying out new activities or hobbies, or reaching out to supportive friends and family members when we face setbacks.

Ultimately, the key to escaping negative patterns is to stay optimistic and focused on what lies ahead. By keeping our minds open and embracing risk and change, we can create new pathways in our lives that lead us toward greater happiness and fulfillment. In short, there is always hope for breaking free from negative cycles – all it takes is a little courage and determination!

Use these strategies to overcome negative feeling of anger when dealing with someone else’s actions.

STEP 1:

Take at least ten minutes to write down what occurred and the particular qualities exhibited by the person that upset you. Describe your thoughts and feelings at the time. Identify your part in the dispute. What did you contribute to it? Include all of your ideas and emotions regarding the conflict.  Identify what you could have done to avoid the problem in the first place.

STEP 2:

Make a list of all the times you’ve exhibited these same qualities with someone else in the past. Consider how those events played out and what you learned from them.

Determine what you need to do to enhance your communication abilities. If you feel the need, enlist the assistance of a competent friend or mentor for advice and assistance. Active listening is another essential skill.

STEP 3:

Write down the benefits you gained due to your experience of being ‘wronged’ in how you were. Consider what lessons you learned and how this event has helped shape who you are as a person. It’s critical to understand and forgive yourself while reflecting on your conflict experiences. We’re all human, after all, and we all make mistakes.

STEP 4:

Make a list of all the possibilities you can think of that will come from conflict. Consider how these events may help you become a better communicator and more resilient person in the future. It’s critical to maintain an open mind while reflecting on your conflicts and commit to learning from your mistakes. We can develop as individuals and become more knowledgeable by approaching conflict in this manner.

Take a seat and complete this exercise right now. If you do the activity thoroughly, openly, and honestly, you’ll notice that you’re no longer resisting. The best thing is that you won’t need to forgive anyone since you will no longer see their behaviors as unfavorable. You’ll also prevent yourself from attracting similar circumstances into your life.

Cycles are a normal and natural part of life, but that doesn’t mean they’re easy to break. We often find ourselves stuck in negative patterns because we don’t have the tools or knowledge to escape them.

What is one step you plan on taking to begin escaping your negative cycle? These four steps are just a starting point; it takes time and effort to fully break free from our negative patterns. But by following these tips, you can make progress towards living a happier and healthier life.