Random Thoughts: Part 4

I’m so proud of myself when I look back at everything I’ve had to go through. I claim that I have only just begun, and there is still a long way to go.

I’m not implying that you shouldn’t have difficult times in life; instead, I believe that you won’t be burdened with a load to carry unless there is a desire inside or an opportunity to learn from it.

I feel fortunate, yet I still do. However, there was no moment when I was told to have a heart-to-heart conversation about various issues and how to handle life. The reality is that life does not come with a handbook. We must all go through it to learn how it functioned and why it worked

The truth is that expecting someone to provide you with a precise blueprint of life and how they have figured it out is a fallacy. Someone can’t assist you to the point where you don’t have to do anything yourself. It’s an easy method

The reality is that life is telling us – How would you figure out how to get out of this maze? You’re just meat in a suit if there’s no way.

Many of you will undoubtedly disagree with these standards and shortcuts. After all, they are the rules of someone who has learned everything independently. I can tell you that they have worked for me thus far.

1. Choose a name of your fear/doubt/worry/pressure and imagine sitting face-to-face with it to deal on an individual basis. It’s not frightening to deal with someone who has a name. It’s unclear what is scary. Fear is attempting to communicate with you about what you are unwilling to face- I’m not sure what I was expecting when I decided to sit down and have a conversation with my fear, but it certainly wasn’t the level of intelligence it exhibited. Fear, as it turns out, is quite perceptive. It knows exactly what my triggers are and how to press my buttons. But fear also has its own set of fears. It’s afraid of being ignored, of being pushed away. Fear is afraid of not being able to protect me from the things it knows are out there waiting for me. So we talked. We talked about my fears and it’s fears. We talked about how we could work together to create a space for me to deal with the things that scare me. And in the end, we came to an understanding. Fear is not my enemy. It’s my ally. And together, we can face anything. So, if you’re struggling with a fear or worry, try giving it a name. Sit down with it and have a conversation. See what it has to say. You might be surprised at how much better you feel afterwards.
2. I don’t believe that any person is inherently bad. They are hurt, and as a consequence, they inflict suffering on others. People who are hurting others do so because they are broken. They manipulate to heal their wounds- I believe that everyone is capable of good and that no one is truly evil. We are all human, and we all have the capacity to love and be loved. However, we are also damaged beings. We have all been hurt, and in response, we have all inflicted suffering on others. When we are hurting, we lash out in an attempt to make ourselves feel better. We manipulate those around us in an attempt to fill the void within us. We do not set out to harm others, but in our quest for healing, we often end up doing more damage. I believe that it is only through understanding and compassion that we can hope to repair the brokenness within ourselves and within others.
3. If you can’t afford to give money, volunteer your services, time, or support. Everything is important. You send out a wave of positive mental energy with your thoughts- We all have something to give, whether it’s our time, our energy, or our financial resources. And when we give of ourselves, we send out a wave of positive energy that can have a profound effect on the world around us. I’ve seen this firsthand in my work as a volunteer with various organizations. Even when I didn’t have a lot of money to give, I found that my time and energy were always appreciated. And as I gave of myself, I found that I received so much more in return. When we give of ourselves, we open up our hearts and minds to new possibilities. We also create a ripple effect of positivity that can touch everyone around us. So if you’re ever feeling low, remember that you have the power to make a difference just by giving of yourself.
4. You may discover that your failure started with a narrative you’ve been telling yourself. The past triumphs you’ve already accomplished will prove that you’ll never let the defeatist voice persuade you again that you’ll fail- We all have a little voice inside our head that tells us we can’t do things. For some of us, that voice is louder than others. And when we’re facing a challenge, it can be difficult to ignore. But the fact is, we all have the ability to overcome anything life throws at us. It may not be easy, but it’s always possible. The first step is recognizing that the voice in your head is lying to you. It’s easy to believe those lies when we’re feeling tired or overwhelmed. But if you take a moment to look back at your life, you’ll see all the times you’ve faced adversity and come out on top. Remembering those times will give you the strength to push forward and achieve anything you set your mind to. So don’t let the voice of defeat keep you from accomplishing great things. You have everything you need to succeed. Just believe in yourself and never give up.
5. Before you do anything better, first figure out what the best is doing-In my experience, the best way to improve at anything is to first study how the best in the field are doing things. This could mean reading about their methods, watching videos of them in action, or even shadowing them in person if possible. By understanding how the best are doing things, you can learn what techniques and strategies are most effective. You can also learn what common mistakes to avoid. Of course, simply copying everything that the best is doing is not guaranteed to lead to success. But it gives you a good starting point, and from there you can start to experiment and find your own unique way of doing things. In my opinion, anyone who wants to be the best at anything should follow this approach. Figure out what the best is doing and then do it yourself. With hard work and dedication, you’ll be surprised at how far you can go.
6. One was birthed while another passed away in some part of the world. You’ve been given this opportunity because you’ve earned it. Make the most of the opportunity, and don’t take it for granted. Nothing is everlasting-It’s impossible to know what’s happening in every corner of the world at all times, but it’s a safe bet that, at any given moment, someone is being born while someone else is dying. Birth and death are the two constants in life, and they serve as reminder that nothing lasts forever. That knowledge can be terrifying, or it can be empowering. It all depends on how you choose to look at it. If you take the time to appreciate the good moments, knowing that they won’t last forever can make them even sweeter. And if you learn from your mistakes, understanding that you won’t have infinite chances to fix them, you can use your limited time more wisely. Life is full of opportunities, but those opportunities won’t last forever. Make the most of the ones you have, and don’t take them for granted.
7. You may look back one day and see that you have a reason to survive after facing so many insurmountable obstacles, and now you’ve discovered it-I never thought I’d make it through some of the tough times I’ve faced in my life. There were moments when I was so sure that I wouldn’t make it to the other side. But I did. And looking back, I can see that there was always a reason for me to keep going, even when things felt hopeless. It’s not always easy to see at the time, but eventually you realize that you survived for a reason. Maybe it’s because you’re meant to help others who are facing similar challenges. Or maybe it’s because you have a unique perspective that can only be gained by overcoming adversity. Whatever the reason, discovering it can give you a renewed sense of purpose and hope.
8. Yes, it’s difficult to be nice to everyone in the world, but you should speak well to yourself since you’re listening to yourself-It’s easy to be hard on yourself. You’re always your own worst critic, and it seems like no matter what you do, it’s never good enough. You start to believe all the negative things you tell yourself, and soon enough, you’re stuck in a spiral of self-doubt and negativity. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Just as you wouldn’t dream of speaking to others the way you speak to yourself, you deserve to give yourself the same courtesy. Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself for your mistakes, and celebrate your accomplishments. After all, you’re the only one who has to live with yourself – so make sure you’re someone worth living with.
9. Anger is a natural human emotion. You have a right to be furious. Make sure you know how to express your emotions properly and where to do it, though. Before you get furious on someone, consider that you have lowered your own standards so accept responsibility for it, too-Everyone experiences anger at some point in their lives. It’s a natural human emotion that can range from mild annoyance to white-hot rage. While it’s perfectly normal to feel angry from time to time, it’s important to learn how to express that anger in a healthy and constructive way. Otherwise, it can lead to problems in relationships, at work, and in other areas of life. One of the most important things to remember is that you have a right to be angry. You don’t need to apologize for feeling angry or try to bottle it up. However, you also need to be aware of how you express your anger. Screaming, throwing things, or becoming physically violent is never acceptable. If you find yourself losing control of your anger, it’s important to step back and take a deep breath. Once you’ve calmed down, you can talk about what made you angry in a rational and constructive way. Remember, everyone gets angry sometimes. It’s only a problem if you don’t know how to handle it in a healthy way.
10. Before you get jealous, furious, or angry on your boss, keep in mind that someone would gladly take your job if you quit it-I know it’s easy to get wrapped up in the day-to-day grind and forget about the big picture, but it’s important to keep perspective. Whenever I’m feeling frustrated with my job, I remind myself that there are plenty of people out there who would love to have my position. I’m lucky to have a job that supports me and my family, and I shouldn’t take that for granted. Of course, that doesn’t mean that I should put up with unfair treatment or an unsafe work environment. But it does mean that I should try to resolve conflicts constructively and remember that, at the end of the day, I’m fortunate to have a job at all.
11. What if everything works out? What if it doesn’t work? One will make you hopeful about possibilities, while the other will depress you. It all comes down to how you ask your questions- I used to ask myself a lot of “what if” questions. What if I didn’t get the job I wanted? What if I failed my exams? What if my friends all decided to leave me? Asking these kinds of questions always led me to feel negative about myself and my future. I was so focused on the possibility of things going wrong that I couldn’t see the potential for things to go right. Eventually, I realized that it wasn’t helpful to keep dwelling on worst-case scenarios. Instead, I started asking myself different kinds of “what if” questions. What if I got the job I wanted? What if I passed my exams? What if my friends stayed by my side? Asking these kinds of questions made me feel more hopeful about my future. It showed me that there were many possible outcomes, and that it was okay to dream and hope for the best. So, the next time you find yourself asking a “what if” question, take a moment to consider how you’re phrasing it. Are you focusing on the negative or the positive? Are you asking a question that will lead you to feel more hopeless or more hopeful?
12. To be what you want to be, you must act in a manner that is consistent with the person you wish to become. You can’t be who you aren’t unless you do something to change who you are-In order to become who you want to be, it is essential that your actions are aligned with your desired identity. Every day, we make choices that either take us closer to or further away from our goals. If you want to be a successful writer, for example, it is important to make time for writing every day. You can’t just hope that inspiration will strike; you have to sit down and put in the work. Similarly, if you want to be a more confident person, it is important to act in a confident way. This might mean speaking up more in meetings or taking on new challenges. Of course, change is never easy, but acting in a way that is consistent with the person you want to become is essential if you ever hope to achieve your goals.
13. Share your problems with individuals who are aware of your circumstances. Those who do not understand will dismiss your difficulties as unimportant- I used to think that it was better to keep my problems to myself. I was worried that other people would think I was weak or crazy if I shared what was going on inside my head. However, I quickly realized that this was a mistake. The people who truly care about me are always happy to listen and offer support, regardless of what I tell them. On the other hand, the people who dismiss my problems are usually the ones who don’t really know me. As a result, it’s better to share my difficulties with those who are aware of my circumstances and can offer compassion and understanding.
14. If you think your obstacle is the most significant barrier to your success, this implies that you are the primary problem. Because the problem begins and remains with you-I used to think that my obstacles were the biggest barrier to my success. I would get so caught up in my problems that I couldn’t see a way out. As a result, I would often find myself feeling stuck and frustrated. However, I eventually realized that the real obstacle to my success was my own thinking. If I want to achieve something, I need to believe that it’s possible. Otherwise, I’ll never even try. And even if I do try, I’ll likely give up before I reach my goal. So instead of focusing on my obstacles, I now focus on finding solutions. And as a result, I’ve accomplished far more than I ever thought possible.
15. You are not wealthy because you subscribe to the false belief that those who are rich are necessarily greedy, unhappy, or unspiritual-I used to think that being wealthy meant having a lot of money. And I used to think that people who had a lot of money were greedy, unhappy, and unspiritual. But I was wrong. You can be wealthy without a lot of money. In fact, you could have all the money in the world and still not be wealthy. Why? Because wealth is not about what you have on the outside. It’s about what you have on the inside. It’s about your relationships, your health, your happiness, and your spirituality. So if you want to be wealthy, focus on those things. Find ways to improve your relationships, your health, your happiness, and your spirituality. That’s how you’ll become truly wealthy. And that’s how you’ll find true happiness and true success in life.
16. It’s impossible to understand why anything happens in your life unless there’s a purpose, and what if you were the one who requested it ! Have you considered the fact that all occurrences, good and bad, light and dark, cold and warm, as well as positive and negative, come in a package-Life is full of surprises. Sometimes, these surprises are pleasant, and sometimes, they are not. However, it is often impossible to understand why certain things happen in our lives unless we step back and look at the bigger picture. Perhaps we requested certain experiences in order to learn certain lessons. Or maybe we are meant to be a catalyst for change in someone else’s life. Whatever the case may be, it is important to remember that everything happens for a reason. The next time something unexpected happens, take a deep breath and ask yourself what you are supposed to learn from the situation. Chances are, the answer will become clear in due time.
17. Some people would rather take a chance than seek advise. However, they don’t quit until damage is done to their dreams. The deaths of aspirations result from carelessness. There is no need to be ashamed of seeking assistance from others-I have always been the type of person who is willing to take a chance. I see an opportunity and I go for it, regardless of what others may think or say. This approach has led me to some great successes in life, but it has also caused me to make some costly mistakes. On more than one occasion, I have dug my heels in and refused to listen to advice, even when it was clear that I was headed down the wrong path. As a result, I have sometimes caused damage to my dreams and aspirations. Thankfully, I have learned from these experiences and I now realize that there is no shame in seeking assistance from others. When we are willing to ask for help, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and new chances for success.
18. If you don’t want to hear anyone else’s advice, make certain your accomplishments speak for themselves-I’m a firm believer in the saying that actions speak louder than words. If you want people to sit up and take notice of you, it’s not enough to just tell them what you’ve done – you need to show them. That’s why I think it’s so important to work hard and achieve something tangible that you can be proud of. Whether it’s landing a great job, starting your own business, or getting straight A’s in school, accomplishing something shows people that you’re not all talk and no action. And once you’ve achieved something significant, the advice and criticism of others will carry a lot more weight. So if you don’t want to hear anyone else’s opinion, make sure your accomplishments speak for themselves.
19. Babies scream because they are unable to express their feelings. Many adults, too, suffer from this problem. If you’re afraid to voice your opinions, write them down-As a baby, I screamed a lot. I was frustrated and angry, but I didn’t know how to express myself. I didn’t have the words to tell my parents what I wanted or how I was feeling. All I could do was scream. As I grew older, I began to learn how to use words to express myself, but there were still times when I felt like screaming. I was afraid to speak up for myself or to voice my opinions. It felt safer to keep my thoughts to myself. Writing has always been a way for me to express my feelings. It’s a safe space where I can say what I want without fear of judgement or rejection. When I’m feeling frustrated or angry, writing is often the best way for me to release those emotions. It’s a way for me to communicate my thoughts and feelings without having to say a word.
20. If everything you’ve ever feared was real, from the past to the present, you wouldn’t be reading this….If everything I’ve ever feared was real, I wouldn’t be writing this. I would be frozen in terror, my mind consumed by images of fears, doubts, and other worries. And yet, despite my fears, I am here. Maybe it’s because I know that, deep down, there’s nothing to truly be afraid of. Or maybe it’s because facing my fears is the only way to overcome them. Either way, I’m not about to let my fears control me.